Your most valuable asset isn’t listed in your portfolio. It doesn’t generate quarterly returns or IPO. But it shapes your financial future more than any ETF, property, or startup.
It wakes up next to you.
It’s seen you at your worst and still loves you.
It either compounds your life or quietly drains it.
The most important deal you’ll ever close isn’t in the boardroom. It’s in the bedroom.
And today, we’re diving into why.
Your Economic Superpower: “I Do”
The biggest variable in your long-term wealth outcomes isn’t interest rates or market cycles……it’s your partner.
If that sounds dramatic, it’s because it is. But it’s also backed by data.
According to the Journal of Sociology, married people build 77% more wealth than singles.
The St. Louis Federal Reserve found that in 2022:
- The median wealth of married couples was $393,000
- For unmarried individuals, it was just $80,000
Why the gap?
Married couples are more likely to own appreciating assets, plan long-term, and combine financial resources. Over time, this compounds not just wealth, but wellbeing.
Shared Goals, Shared Growth
When you choose a life partner, you’re not just choosing who you travel or raise kids with. You’re merging balance sheets, belief systems, and spending habits.
If one of you is a saver and the other a spender, and those values aren’t aligned……it’s a recipe for resentment.
Australian stats back this up:
- 42% of couples argue about money (Finder 2022)
- 1 in 6 relationships break down due to money stress
- Money is the #1 topic couples fight about (Canstar 2023)
- Financial stress is one of the top 3 causes of separation (Relationships Australia)
Even couples with high incomes fall apart if they’re pulling in opposite directions financially.
Divorce Is More Than Emotional, It’s Financial
Australia’s divorce rate sits at around 1 in 3 marriages ending in separation. According to the ABS, there were 49,241 divorces in 2022, and the median marriage length to divorce was 12.8 years3.
Even with a 50:50 split, everyone gets poorer.
Financial impact of divorce in Australia:
- The average wealth drop post-divorce is 30–40% (AMP/NATSEM study)
- Women’s household income drops 21%, men’s by 14% (HILDA Survey)
- It often takes 5–10 years to recover financially, if at all
You don’t just lose money…….you lose compounding. Super balances are split. Property gets sold. Plans get delayed.
Real Talk: What This Looks Like in My Life
I’ve always had a strong focus on living within my means, saving diligently, and only using borrowed money for investments…..not for lifestyle. That mindset kicked in after my post-uni travel phase, and it’s shaped how I’ve built wealth since.
My partner, Morgan, approaches money a little differently. She tends to lean more toward spending and enjoying the moment, and like many of us, can get caught up in the pull of consumerism…..buying things that don’t always serve long-term goals.
At first, these differences could have easily created friction. But early on in our relationship, we made the choice to talk openly about our financial habits, values, and goals.
That early dialogue changed everything.
It gave us the ability to tighten the belt when needed, but also enjoy spending without guilt when we have the capacity. We check in with each other before big decisions. We align on what matters. And most importantly, we respect each other’s approach even if it’s different.
We didn’t need to think the same…….we just needed to be on the same page.
Final Thought
The most important financial decision you’ll ever make isn’t what stock to buy.
It’s who you build your life with.
Choose someone who compounds you…..emotionally and financially.
Because over decades, the right partner is the greatest asset you’ll ever hold.
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